Is a reception for a destination wedding just a grab for gifts?
Jonny B asked:
Is a reception for a destination wedding just a grab for gifts?
My nephew is getting married and he and his fiance have decided on a destination wedding. They did not want all the “hassle” of a traditional wedding.
He and his fiance and another couple are going to an island and getting married.
I can accept this and respect their wishes. Over and over they have said that they are glad that they are avoiding the “hassle”. I remember my own wedding and sometimes wish we had just eloped.
Suddenly, a big reception is being planned for the weekend after their return. To me this seems just like a convenient way to avoid their social obligations while grabbing for gifts.
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Is a reception for a destination wedding just a grab for gifts?
My nephew is getting married and he and his fiance have decided on a destination wedding. They did not want all the “hassle” of a traditional wedding.
He and his fiance and another couple are going to an island and getting married.
I can accept this and respect their wishes. Over and over they have said that they are glad that they are avoiding the “hassle”. I remember my own wedding and sometimes wish we had just eloped.
Suddenly, a big reception is being planned for the weekend after their return. To me this seems just like a convenient way to avoid their social obligations while grabbing for gifts.
Life is about choices…once a choice is made we have to live with the consequences, both good and bad.
November 16th, 2008 at 9:47 am
Technically no one is obligated to give a gift, even if they attend the ceremony, and to be honest, MOST receptions are a play for gifts (as are engagement parties, showers of all kinds, etc….) You give gifts, or you don’t, but I like to give gifts because I’m fond of the folks getting married, having the baby, or whatever, and don’t feel put out that I’m not getting my money’s worth because they eloped.
November 18th, 2008 at 7:27 am
A lot of people don’t have money to travel to a far-away, romantic destination to help the couple celebrate, but they still want to offer their warm wishes. That’s what the reception is for. You have no obligation to take a gift.